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Buy me a rose…

“Buy me a rose” is a title of a song by Kenny Rogers. It talks about the life of a husband and a wife. It tells us about a typical husband trying to please his wife with what he thought she wants. It also narrates a story of a typical wife who does not say what she really needed in life with her husband and keeps it in her heart until it hurts. If you read the message and if you pay attention on the lyrics more than the music that accompanies it, you will really learn a lot from it. One of the most important thing that I learned from the song is that there should always be open and direct communication of feelings, emotions, desires, plans, needs of couples to each other. The following are the things that should be understood when I say open communication:

1) Open communication should never be mistaken as an argument – The one who wants to voice out something in a relationship should never be afraid to try and say his or her thoughts. Communication is a healthy thing. It is not a problem but is one of the ways of resolving hidden grudges or misinterpretations.

2) When one speaks out his or her mind it should be done in a proper way – When you want to tell your partner what you think is needed then approach in a nice way. I learned that shouting truly gets your partners attention however, it channels a different message. The partner will not understand why you have to shout or throw things.

3) The other should stop whatever he or she is doing and should give attention or should listen – Communication is a 2 way process. Therefore, 2 people should give each other undivided attention. Listen eagerly and sincerely. This means that one should talk and the other should listen at the same time.

4) The one sharing should also be open to the response of the other – Men should never agree to women just because they want women to stop talking. If they do not like the idea of the other, they should be “MAN” enough to explain their side. Most men walk out or sleep. Women, should also listen to explanations and must try not to act immaturely like cover their ears when the other is starting to make a point.

5) Meet halfway or totally agree with the idea of the other whichever should work – once a decision is made never betray it by doing the opposite.

This is my definition of what married couples’ communication means. These are my own learnings of my own married life experience.

So I would like to share to you this beautiful song “Buy me a Rose” by Kenny Rogers!

He works hard to give her all he thinks she wants
A three car garage, her own credit cards
He pulls in late to wake her up with a kiss good night
If he could only read her mind, shed say:

Buy me a rose, call me from work
Open a door for me, what would it hurt
Show me you love me by the look in your eyes
These are the little things I need the most in my life

Now the days have grown to years of feeling all alone
And she cant help but wonder what shes doing wrong
Cause lately shed try anything to turn his head
Would it make a difference if she said:

Buy me a rose, call me from work
Open a door for me, what would it hurt
Show me you love me by the look in your eyes
These are the little things I need the most in my life

And the more that he lives the less that he tries
To show her the love that he hold inside
And the more that she gives the more that he sees
This is a story of you and me

So I bought you a rose on the way home from work
Opened the door to a heart that I hurt
And I hope you notice this look in my eyes
Cause Im gonna make things right
Im gonna hold you tonight
Do all those little things
For the rest of your life.