“When you fall in love, it is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake, and then it subsides. And when it subsides, you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots are become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the desire to mate every second of the day. It is not lying awake at night imagining that he is kissing every part of your body. No… don’t blush. I am telling you some truths. For that is just being in love; which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over, when being in love has burned away…”

Now, I can see and feel that my husband has become sweeter each day. He has learned to make me more happy. I think may be because he has gone to the next level. When I say that, I meant, I think he has now understood that I am really a woman who needs to be loved and be sometimes flattered by small symbols of love. Today, I got flowers from him. Pink roses which for me signifies how soft and fragile a woman’s heart is.

Thank you Langga and Happy 8th Anniversary!

First of all, let me clear things out for you.

1) A woman who does not go on a date with you might mean she does not like you in anyway. Therefore, it would be too hard for you if you push yourself to her unless there is something very special about you that you are confident you can use to get her attention.

2) The woman already has a boyfriend and does not have any thoughts of leaving him.

3) A woman who does not go on a date with you might be a little shy.

4) It might be her first time.

The last 2 reasons are easier to handle compared to the first 2. If you force it, you might end up getting yourself into hot water. So let us better find girls, ladies and women who are simply single – not in a relationship yet. And if you can’t get her to date with you then the following might apply:

a) Get to know her friends – the best source of reliable information are the friends around her. They know what she likes, what she wants and most of all what she hates about. So better get all these things and try to reflect if you can afford what she wants and whether you are not what she hates.

b) Once you have her friends attention, invite them along with her – of course, at this point you have done your part in making friends with her, introducing a little about yourself. When she shares back, you have a chance of getting into her heart. But if she just gives you 2-word answers, then change your style. Talk about what interests her more. So going back, once you have done your part of getting to know her, invite her friends including her, of course, to a party or a small gathering in your town. This way you will be able to interact with her which will actually help you make a connection.

c) Bring her to a place that she loves – my husband took me to their church which is actually the venue where we got married! I was able to share to him during our getting to know each other moments that I love visiting our church in the province and saying a little prayer everytime I visit. Wait! It does not have to be like this. I am just sharing my story just to give you an example. What I am trying to say is, you should have already figured out what she loves so that you will be able to use it to get her attention and make her interested about you.

d) Leave a mark – make sure that you give her a token after your date. Something that would make her remember you, something about you.

e) Make a follow up – call her if she got home safe. You really do not have to send her home but you can offer. She will be more pleased if you do. Make sure you keep in touch with her everyday.

I am sharing these dating tips based on my experience although I am not sure if this was how my husband planned our first informal date. We had other adventure that day. After dinner, he took me to a ride in a ferris wheel. I remembered I shared to him about my fear of heights however that I also dreamed of experiencing how it feels to ride a ferris wheel but that I was afraid because something might happen and I just couldn’t bear heights! It was one of the most exciting and at the same time scariest first times in my life. By the moment he took my hand and told me “Trust me, it will be fun!” I trusted him, I felt nervous but I was calm. I took his hand and there I was! I was shouting at the top of my lungs! I was really having fun that time!  It left me a remembrance I hold dear in my heart. I always will treasure that experience. My husband always challenges me and help me through my fears. Ever since that day, I started going on a date with him alone. That was how my husband got me to date with him!